I can’t give away what I don’t have: If I can’t love others, it’s because I don’t know that God loves me.
It is obvious that in order to give away money, you must have money to give away, and in order to give away a car, you must have a car to give away. Likewise, in order to give away love, you must have love to give away.
That love — true love — can come only from God, for he is the only source of unconditional love. As followers of Christ, we are instructed to let God’s love flow through us to the world: “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another” (John 13:34).
You are to love others as God loves you. However, if you don’t know how much God loves you, then you can’t love one another.
Leviticus 19:18 says, “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Again, if you don’t have love in you (for yourself and for God), then you can’t love others.
So, if you’re having trouble loving others, it’s probably because you don’t know how much God loves you.
Accept correction as direction.
Part of real, genuine love is correcting others. God says in Revelation 3:19, Those whom I love I rebuke and discipline. If God’s spirit is correcting you, then that a sign that he loves you. God loves you enough to risk offending you so that he can guide you away from things that might harm you.
Don’t get mad at someone who corrects you; rather, rejoice that you’re given a chance to grow and change. If you’re wise, you’ll appreciate and love the people who correct you (Proverbs 9:8)
Parents aren’t showing their children love if they never correct them. If your little boy is being mean to other kids, but you chose not to correct him, then he’ll probably never change. However, if you love him enough that you want him to improve his behavior, then you’ll correct him so that you can guide him in a different direction.
When someone corrects you, don’t become angry at them. Recognize that they’re simply trying to help you. Accept their correction as direction.